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In loving memory of

Eleanor M. Whitfield

March 14, 1942October 2, 2025

To love and be loved is to feel the sun from both sides.

— David Viscott, a favourite of hers

About & life story

A life measured in kindnesses.

Eleanor — Ellie to nearly everyone — was born in the spring of 1942 on a small dairy farm outside Burlington, the eldest of four. She grew up reading at the kitchen table while bread rose beside her, a habit that never quite left her.

After studying English at the University of Vermont, she spent thirty-one years teaching literature at Edmunds Middle School, where she was known for staging Shakespeare in the gymnasium and keeping a tin of shortbread in her desk drawer for any student having a hard week.

She met James in 1967 at a Joan Baez concert and married him the following summer. Together they raised three children, kept a garden that was the unofficial envy of Maple Street, and hosted a Sunday supper that anyone in town was welcome to join, no RSVP required.

In retirement she took up watercolour, volunteered at the public library's literacy program, and became, in her own words, "a terrible but enthusiastic" birdwatcher. She is survived by James, her three children and seven grandchildren, who will carry her kindness forward in every room they enter.

A life in chapters

Timeline

Scroll or click any milestone to read more. Eight decades, lightly held.

  1. The eldest of four, on the family dairy farm.

Immediate family

Family tree

EllieEleanor M. Whitfield1942 — 2025
SpouseJames WhitfieldMarried 1968
ChildMargaret Whitfield-Reyesb. 1971 · m. Luis Reyes
AnaSofia
ChildThomas Whitfieldb. 1974 · m. Priya Whitfield
RaviMayaJonah
ChildClaire Whitfieldb. 1979
EliRuth
Siblings:Ruth (b. 1945)Arthur (1947–2011)Jane (b. 1951)

Virtual candle wall

Light a candle in her memory.

A quiet ritual. Every candle lit here stays lit for the week of mourning.

8candles lit so far
  • ClaireFor the best mom a person could hope for.1h ago
  • TomMiss you already, Ma.3h ago
  • Marg5h ago
  • HelenWith love from across the yard.yesterday
  • Sam O.Thank you, Mrs. Whitfield.yesterday
  • The Edmunds Class of '882 days ago
  • DavidRest easy, dear friend.2 days ago
  • Ruth & Eli3 days ago

Memories & condolences

A wall of small, true things.

Messages are reviewed by the family before appearing publicly. Take your time.

  • Margaret Whitfield-Reyes
    Daughter · 2 days ago

    Mom taught me to read by candlelight during the '77 ice storm, and made me feel like the power was out on purpose so we'd have an adventure. I carry that with me every time the lights flicker.

  • Rabbi David Chen
    Family friend · 3 days ago

    Ellie once drove forty minutes in a blizzard to bring chicken soup to a student who was homesick. She told me afterwards, almost apologetically, "I had the soup already made." That was her.

  • Samuel Okafor
    Former student, Class of '91 · 4 days ago

    Mrs. Whitfield made me play Hamlet when I was twelve and terrified. She stood just off-stage with her hand over her heart the whole time. I've thought about that small, steady gesture my entire adult life.

  • Helen Baxter
    Neighbour, 38 years · 5 days ago

    Our kitchens faced each other across the yard. Ellie had a system of waves through the window — a quick two for hello, a slow one for tea? A long one for come, something's wrong. I will miss that window terribly.

Memorial service

We gather to remember her.

Date
Saturday, October 18, 2025
Time
2:00 – 4:00 PM
Venue
First Unitarian Society of Burlington
152 Pearl Street, Burlington, VT 05401
Dress
Smart casual. Ellie asked that no one wear black on her account.
After
A reception with tea and shortbread will follow at the family home.

Support & donations

Keep her work going.

In lieu of flowers, the family invites contributions to a fund that will support adult literacy programs at the Fletcher Free Library — a cause that was close to Ellie's heart.

Eleanor Whitfield Literacy Fund

213 contributors
$14,820raised of $25,000 goal · 59%
  • Memorial Fund
    Eleanor Whitfield Literacy Fund
    Fletcher Free Library
    Contribute
  • Charity
    UVM Medical Center Palliative Care
    In gratitude for her care team
    Donate
  • Flowers & Gifts
    Sugar Maple Florist
    Local, family-owned
    Send flowers
  • Meal train
    For James & the family
    Drop-offs, Oct 6 – Nov 1
    Sign up

A few of her favourite things

The small list.

Not the whole library. Just the books, songs, and habits she returned to most.

  • BookMiddlemarchGeorge Eliot
  • BookA Tree Grows in BrooklynBetty Smith
  • PoemThe Peace of Wild ThingsWendell Berry
  • SongDiamonds & RustJoan Baez
  • SongMoon RiverHenry Mancini
  • RecipeSunday shortbreadher grandmother's hand-written card
  • PlaceThe porch at duskMaple Street
  • HabitReading aloudto anyone who would listen

Acknowledgments

With gratitude to…

  • The nurses and aides of the UVM Home Hospice team, who made her last months a quiet grace.

  • Dr. Naomi Patel and the palliative care staff at UVM Medical Center.

  • Neighbours on Maple Street, who kept the porch lights on.

  • The congregation of First Unitarian Society, for forty years of friendship and casseroles.

  • The Fletcher Free Library literacy volunteers, her second family.